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Hello all! This is a wonderful post originally from Mara Glatzel.
I love this, I preach this, I believe this and I wanted to pass it along. Allow yourself to work with yourself today, and be gentle with you. We are all we have, sweet friends, and we are enough. You are enough. There is enough today…enough time, enough money, enough love, enough breath. So for just a second, relax your shoulders. Take a deep breath and allow that Calm Voice to whisper encouragement in your ears. There is only now, so deepen into the moment and allow yourself to Be Here Now. You are worth it. Moment to moment, allow yourself a radical self-love, an unconditional friendliness towards yourself. You so deserve it.
Without further ado, here is Mara.
A Declaration of Self Care
I believe that we teach other people how to treat us.
That we surround ourselves with the love we believe that we deserve.
That the way that we treat ourselves sets the baseline for all of our relationships.
The relationship that we have with ourselves is the most important relationship of our lifetime.
Yet, so many of us are too busy telling ourselves what to do and where to be to get to know the beautiful, imperfect, phenomenally powerful person that we already are – no trying required.
Our relationships with ourselves are built upon foundations of self-trust, foundations that are created brick by brick as we keep our own promises to follow through.
This relationship is the layer beneath pedicures and walks on the beach. They aren’t talking about radical self-responsibility in Seventeen magazine. It exists in the realms beneath self-care as we often see it represented in the media, where a spa day can cure just about anything.
Don’t get me wrong, I love the spa, but my self-care doesn’t require special treatment. Instead, at it’s core, it is a vow to tell myself the truth, and to work with myself instead of against myself.
It is about how I want to show up in my life – for myself and for my dreams – and the tangible ways that I tend to my wild spirit as I journey on.
It is about taking care now, in this moment, in this body, in this life, and not waiting for someone else to tell you that you are worth caring for.
It is about your beautiful deserving, the tender yearning of your essential self. I know that you want to be seen and heard. I want to be seen and heard too. However, if I don’t show myself respect in seeing or listening to my own needs, I can hardly to know how important my own voice is.
My declaration in self-care
I am strong enough to tell myself the truth.
I am brave enough to show up, even when and especially when, it hard.
It is not selfish to make sure that my basic needs are met – and then some – it is what I need to thrive.
It is my responsibility to take care of the one body that I am going to get in this life.
In caring for myself and for my body, I am showing myself, again and again, that I am worthy of love and care.
I deserve to receive my own love.
I carry this love and this trust with me everywhere that I go, and I have the choice to lean into this knowing, this unshakable relationship with myself.
It is through caring for myself that I am able to reclaim my brilliance, to stand in my power and beauty.
I am ready.
First, I wanted to say thanks to everyone who stopped by for the Sustainable Yard Tour. I think we had about 100 or so people here, and a good time was had by all. We met a lot of other garden geeks and seed savers, as well as a great number of local foodies and just all around cool people. We were also able to connect with Andy from the International Institute, about the cool project they are doing, called the Global Farms Initiative.
The International Institute Global Farms Initiative is an agriculture-based career training program for refugees with two training locations: the North site, at Hodiamont and Plymouth, and the South site, an incubator farm in the Botanical Heights Neighborhood near Folsom & 39th in South City. The goal of the agriculture job training program is to provide refugees who desire a career in agriculture with a variety of educational opportunities intended for replication in their own farming endeavors. This job training program is a low-cost alternative for our new American farmers and a means to economic self-sufficiency.
There is a lot more the II does and teaches, but in short, this particular initiative is a pretty cool program that feeds the City Greens Market and helps start new businesses in the area. They are always looking for extra garden tools or supplies, seeds or plants, so if you have anything like that languishing in your garage or shed, feel free to get in touch with Andy or let me know what you have and I’ll be happy to pass it along.
On a more techie note, if you currently use Google Reader to access the enthralling content of this and other blogs, you know that is coming to an end this week. However, Fear Not! We’re hooked up with BlogLovin, and you can click that link on the right panel at the main blog site, sign in, and this and other blogs will be delivered directly to your internet doorstep. How cool is that? You can also download the apps for your iwhatever or droidwhatever, or just click the link on the site and voila! You are good to go.
Thanks again to everyone who stopped by, and for all of those out you trying to make the world a kinder, safer, saner place. Have a great day!
Hello all! I wanted to update you on some cool happenings here at the Blessings Enterprises World Headquarters.
First, and how cool is this: This yard and space is listed on the 2013 Sustainable Yard Tour on Sunday, June 23, from 11-4:00. You can find more about the tour and all the other cool spaces here. Feel free to come by, and by all means, check out some of the other listed houses and yards. A lot of neat stuff is happening in St. Louis, and the community is happy to share ideas and expertise. The Tour is a wonderful way to get to know your neighbors and get some great gardening ideas.
Now in its third year, The Sustainable Backyard Tour is a free, self-guided, open-house-style tour of sustainable outdoor residential spaces around St. Louis. It is a unique opportunity to see firsthand how others have integrated sustainable living practices into their little piece of Earth. You’ll see a wide range of organic and sustainable practices, from natives to bees, from perennial veggies to fruit trees, demonstrated in St. Louis back yards, front yards, side yards, courtyards and more!
Next, those of you who actually come to see me in person will see a For Sale sign out front starting this week. Yes, it’s true: the Little House in the City is for sale. I will be moving to an office space, probably in the Webster area, when this sweet house sells. By all means, if you know some urban homesteading hippie, send them on over! I’ll still work with clients 3 days a week and will be writing and pursuing some other interests a few days a week. I will probably also be spending some time in New Mexico to write and do some research. A lot of fun things are unfolding for all of us, much is in motion these days! I’ll post as info becomes available, but for now, we are still working out of the city.
Hope to see some of you Sunday for the Tour!
Gardening is the most therapeutic and defiant act you can do, especially in the city. Plus, you get strawberries.
~~ Ron Finley
Hello all! In honor of Mother’s Day, I spent the weekend planting a crazy organic garden, playing in the dirt. I planted about 60 or so cucumbers, aka Pickle Seeds. I planted an equally ridiculous amount of tomatoes and assorted other edibles… Some peppers, more salad greens, tons of sunflower seeds and a variety of other things. The garlic I planted last fall is coming up like crazy, the herbs are on full display and things are blooming like a veritable Garden of Eden out there. I had fresh salads all winter long from a cold frame that survived snow, ice and weeks of frigid temps. Last year 9 people ate out of our little city yard. It’s a revolution!
Gardening is therapy for me, but it’s more than that, at many levels. It’s about going against a tide of perception, a cultural rule, that says it is not OK to really take care of yourself. It’s about the fact that to really take time for yourself, not work so hard, be gentle with self, others and earth is to start a revolution. It’s also acknowledgment of what a radical, spiritual act it is to make your landscape edible, to grow something from a tiny seed that can feed you, and countless others, months later. It’s an act of communion with the earth, and a means of resistance to a system that says you must be dependent on people you do not even know for all of your food choices. It’s also a spiritual act to take part in an activity that has sustained us for generations. It’s good stuff.
I thought about this video while I was planting, and wanted to share it. Ron Finley is a professional clothing designer for athletes. He lives in South Central LA and is also known as a Guerilla Gardener. He envisions a world where gangstas garden, where cool kids know their nutrition and where communities embrace the act of growing, knowing and sharing the best of the earth’s fresh-grown food. As part of this effort, Ron is planning to build an urban garden in South Central LA that will serve as an example of a well-balanced, fruit-and-veggie oasis – called “HQ.” Inspired by the idea of turning unused space such as parkways and vacant lots into fruitful endeavors, this garden and gathering place will be a community hub, where people learn about nutrition and join together to plant, work and unwind. HQ will create a myriad of jobs for local residents, and this plot of land will be a self-sufficient ecosystem of gardening, education, cooking, business learning and management. The community will get their hands dirty together, shovel together, work together and be healthy together. You can read more about his efforts here.
His TED talk is great, and not too long. Enjoy, and go start your own revolution!
I saw this post and wanted to share it. I’m coming off a several day silent retreat and this was a perfect reminder as I do re-entry.
This is my new mantra: I’m actually not that busy.
It doesn’t sound spiritual or like something you heard at your yoga class. It might not even feel true the first few times you say it! But it’s changing my life.
My aha moment came when I saw this graphic above on Facebook. Moments later I heard Brene Brown talk about how we glorify our busy lives, how we actually think that if we’re not busy our lives are less important or have less value. It’s subtle, but always saying we are busy is another way we reinforce our not-enoughness.
When people ask you how you’re doing, do you do what I do? Do you say, “Oh fine, crazy, busy as ever!” or “Really good… super busy!”
But what is busy really? but something we tell ourselves.
I practiced it this morning when I dropped off Nico at school. As I signed him out, I heard that familiar refrain, Okay sister, you better get going now and get to your desk… But then I stopped myself and said, I’m actually not that busy!and let myself stay a few extra minutes building a tower of blocks with him.
It was just a few more minutes but it felt spacious, like I got to decide that I have time for everything. I felt myself writing a new story: that there is enough time for what’s most important in my life.
If you see it all as part of the creative process (and I do) — the daydreams, the walks, the lying on the couch, the spontaneous lunch with a friend — it starts to make sense. My best work is done this way– not when I am pinched and constricted but expansive and present.
So yeah, the more I say it, the more it feels true. I’m not that busy people! and it’s awesome.
Will you try this with me?
The next time someone asks you how you are, I dare you to say: Great! I’m actually not that busy.
What can we say about the events in Boston? So much pain and so much suffering, in Boston and all over the world. Our hearts ache in compassion for those impacted and those working to help, in Boston and all over the globe. In the last 72 hours, there have been bombings in our country and others, earthquakes with scores missing or dead, other natural disasters, other personal losses and so much pain and confusion. In times such as this, I think it’s human to want to retaliate, to add aggression to an already confused and painful situation, to want to strike out in our own pain and fear.
Whenever possible though, try to slow down. The human tendency is to break off into camps of “us” and “them,” to want to hurt someone because you are hurting so much. For just a moment, try something different. Stop blaming yourself or others for the fear and confusion you feel. Take a deep breath. Relax your shoulders. Come out of fight or flight. Let yourself feel gratitude and a moment’s peace, come back home to yourself. Think of those you love and let your heart open again. Stop watching the same scary video over and over. Be the peace and change you want to see in the world. Replace that turbulence inside with a sacred calm, that anxiety with a gentle relaxation. Breathe into the feelings and allow them to dissipate.
We’re all we’ve got, sweet friends, and we are enough. YOU are enough. Peace begins with a smile. Be gentle with yourselves today, and focus on the love you have for those around you. Breathe into that, and go forth in peace. It really does change things, in ways beyond your wildest dreams. You may not be able to hold back the darkness, but you can be the Light, and the light always overcomes the darkness. Always.
Here’s our Quote for the Day:
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”
Mr. Fred Rogers
1928-2003, Educator, Minister, Songwriter, Author and Television Host
Today, look for the helpers. I promise you will see them everywhere.